Sunday, October 17, 2010

She Lost It... and I'm LOSING It!!

My daughter lost her tooth today during breakfast.  It was really good timing (insert sarcasm here) because it fell out just seconds after my 5 year old son spilled the milk from his cereal bowl onto the table, then to his seat, floor and part of my seat.  We were all really excited until he told me that his undies were soaked and it felt "really cold."  Before that I didn't even know that it went on his seat.  So it was a bit difficult to stay happy that her tooth fell out while he was whining and I was cleaning up the mess.  The one redeeming factor was that he was still in his pajamas and not in his church clothes yet.  Here's a picture of my 7 1/2 year old daughter after losing her first top tooth.  She now has a temporary lisp :O)
It was a bagel with cream cheese that finally did the trick.  The tooth was FINALLY ready to come out.  

And now, why I'm LOSING IT...  My three kids will not listen to me (and obey).  I'll admit my standards are pretty high, because we've attended Growing Kids God's Way parenting classes THREE TIMES!  The last time we were even small group facilitators.  If you are familiar with the GKGW (short for Growing Kids God's Way) philosophy, then you already know that you raise your children to the standard instead of lowering the standard to the children.  At the very most basic description of the standard, I think, is obeying your parents.  The kids are now 7 1/2, 5 and about 3 1/2.  We've been attempting to follow the philosophy of GKGW for the past 6 years.  We are obviously NOT doing something right.  

The incident this evening was not as bad as it has been on other occasions.  We stopped at a Publix grocery store that has one of those GLACIER water bottle filling machines.  

It HAS TO BE at a Publix that is NO WHERE NEAR OUR WATER COMPANY'S SERVICE.  We are refusing to use our tap water for drinking because we were notified (after 3 months of using contaminated water) that the standard water sampling they do quarterly showed higher than acceptable levels of some chemical that "could" cause cancer.  We used to filter our tap water with a Brita water filter, but we threw them away and started buying bottled water, until we had enough gallon jugs to refill ourselves.  At our closest Publix/Glacier machine it only costs 25 cents to fill your own gallon-sized jug.  My theory is because the water is tainted.  Outside of the water company's radius of service the Glacier water costs 5 cents more.  Even though it is a MAJOR PAIN to fill up about 10 water jugs at a time every week.  We're saving money (and plastic) by not buying more gallons of bottled water. 

Alright, enough with my tainted water supply tirade.  Tonight on the way home from our small group meeting, the kids and I stopped at our usual Publix that is about a 15 minute drive south of our house to fill up our water jugs.  In a nutshell, I had to CONSTANTLY tell them to not do that and do this, over and over and over again.  It doesn't help that the Glacier machines are at the entrance to the store and lots of people are going in and out and in and out trying to dodge the three kids sprinting back and forth from where I am to the gigantic scale (that they thought was a jungle gym), the electric scooter shopping carts, playing with the automatic doors, sticking their hands in the box to drop off your boxtops for "cash for your school," etc...  It didn't help that I had more than the usual 10 jugs to fill.  I'm not sure how long we were there, but it was TOO LONG!  I probably looked like my head was going to explode.  While I was putting the filled water jugs into the car, I overheard my daughter say to the 5 year old son something really snotty (the tone of her voice) or condescending.  THAT was the last straw...

We had planned on watching the "Dragon" movie when we got home and eating homemade popcorn during the movie as a special treat, but I had to take away that privilege.  They freaked out at the news, but that only strengthened my resolve.  I knew I had made a good choice on a punishment.  It is physically and mentally exhausting to have to "fight" with your kids to try and get them to listen/obey you.  Tonight before bed I'm going to get out my GKGW book and start searching for the answer to this dilemma.  Let me know if you have any suggestions.

Also tomorrow morning I'm beginning a new exercise workout.  I'm pretty nervous because it's known to be REALLY hard.  I'm going to take some "before" pictures tomorrow and won't post them unless I lose the 20 pounds that I want to get rid of.  I'm going to rely on you to keep me accountable.  I'll keep you posted of my progress. Thanks!


  1. I'm not familiar with GKGW, but may check it out. A lot of people at work (aka church since I work at our church!) recommended Parenting with Love and Logic to me.

    I read it cover to cover, loved it, then read Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood. I thought they were fantastic and made so much sense.

    However, like you, we must be doing something wrong, because there is no magic to this! Zach is a two-year old terror and I don't feel like I can do anything to stop it. ;-)

  2. Angie, I've never heard of the Love and Logic book. I'll look into it. What do you do at your church?

  3. I work in the IT Department as the Database Coordinator. I manage the church's Fellowship One database and all things related to it. :-)


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